My wife and I give pre-married couples we mentor a "conflict card" that has a 1-10 rating scale on how strongly each person feels about the issue. 1 is "Im not enthusiastic, but its no big deal to me", 5 is "I don't agree and cannot remain silent" and 10 is "over my dead body". It helps put things in perspective, and moves from an emotional response to a rational one, which can often be super helpful.
My wife and I give pre-married couples we mentor a "conflict card" that has a 1-10 rating scale on how strongly each person feels about the issue. 1 is "Im not enthusiastic, but its no big deal to me", 5 is "I don't agree and cannot remain silent" and 10 is "over my dead body". It helps put things in perspective, and moves from an emotional response to a rational one, which can often be super helpful.
Conflict card? That sounds awesome. I'll follow up with you to get more details on this. I smell a follow-up post :)